Patience is a virtue that is expressed at the time of hardship. Patience is defined in the dictionary as bearing pains or trials calmly and without complaint and manifesting forbearance under provocation or strain. Ok so I think I was at wits end with all the afternoon thunderstorms we’ve had this week. The lack of outdoor fun has had the girls very rambunctious and at each others throats which has left me exhausted sore, and crying for help.

Well help has finally arrived Alhamdulilah. Earlier this week I was told of an Islamic Day Camp for kids in my area which meets three times a week. I was eagerly waiting for information regarding the activities, schedule, and praying that they would accept my youngest who is two years old. Well yesterday, when I thought my day couldn’t get more stressful, I literally broke-down into tears from the frustration from their endless screaming, bickering, bitings, pinches etc. (you name it they have done it to each other). I couldn’t take it anymore and didn’t know what else to do. I wanted to run out of the house and just leave all three of them just to have a fresh of breath air and a minimum of 5 minutes to myself. I cried over the phone to my husband out of the anxiety and turmoil and feelings of helplessness. I couldn’t blame the three of them. They have been cooped up in this apartment since Sunday because of the summer thunderstorms we’ve had and reading, drawing, playing board games just wasn’t cutting it anymore. He had reminded me to be patient and empathized with me. He said, “Remember to be patient, Allah says that the person who has no patience has lost”. His words brought me peace and reminded me of the great virtue of patience. Later that day, I attended my class online and we were discussing the major sin of associating partners (shirk) with Allah (swt). We discussed the types of shirk for example shirk of the tongue, magic, showing off (riyaa) and how to ask Allah’s forgiveness and how to repent. I realized during the class how Merciful Allah is and how easy it is for us to seek His forgivness. It lifted a ton of bricks off my shoulders and brought great relief. Later that evening I was greeted with great news.

The lady who had informed me about the day camp called and confirmed that they had open slots for my three girls to join. My first reaction was extreme relief. My mind was rushed with thoughts of  “Alhamdulilah, OMG (oh my God) this is fantastic!!!!!!!” Streemers and confetti filled my mind like that New Year’s celebration hehhehe LOL…. I was overjoyed for sure. I was amazed how just a little patience yesterday at a time when I thought I was going to fail and lose my mind, went a long way and soon after Allah sent relief. This immediately reminded me of the verses in the Quran where Allah says in the interpretation of the meaning:

“…No person shall have a burden laid on him greater than he can bear….” (Al-Baqara (2) :Verse 233)

“Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope. He gets reward for that (good) which he has earned, and he is punished for that (evil) which he has earned. “Our Lord! Punish us not if we forget or fall into error, our Lord! Lay not on us a burden like that which You did lay on those before us (Jews and Christians); our Lord! Put not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Pardon us and grant us Forgiveness. Have mercy on us. You are our Maula (Patron, Suppor-ter and Protector, etc.) and give us victory over the disbelieving people.”  (Al-Baqara (2) : Verse 286)

Allah proved to me once again that He is Grand and Merciful. So today we’re going to sign some forms and they will attend for the first time today Praise be to Allah. Today is water day at the camp and was told to bring their swimwear and other supplies. How fantastic is that. So today I will pamper myself and relax for 4 grandeous hours inshallah (God wills). I feel better than a queen right now and will make my home a spa sanctuary for myself. My phone will be on vibrate and won’t answer unless it’s an emergency, will log of the net and  just endulge in tangible pleasures that this world has to offer and will rejuvenate my spirit, body, and mind. I thought I had known how to be patient from prior experiences; however, Allah sometimes brings us tests that are more challenging then previous trials and when we go through them we see them as great walls to climb over but when we climb over it successfully it didn’t seem as difficult as we thought.

The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said that “The real patience is at the stroke of calamity”. (Al-Bukhari)  and one of the greatest blessings we can receive is that of patience.

 Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri: Some Ansari persons asked for (something) from Allah’s Apostle (pbuh) and he gave them. They again asked him for (something) and he again gave them. And then they asked him and he gave them again till all that was with him finished. And then he said “If I had anything. I would not keep it away from you. (Remember) Whoever abstains from asking others, Allah will make him contented, and whoever tries to make himself self-sufficient, Allah will make him self-sufficient. And whoever remains patient, Allah will make him patient. Nobody can be given a blessing better and greater than patience.”  (Al-Bukhari)

 It’s in patience that we learn new qualities in ourselves and learn that anger is so easy to overtake us. There is great wisdom behind the meaning of patience. It prevents us from commiting sins that we will later regret, and it teaches us to trust in Allah (swt) and that He sees all, and knows our situations better than we know it ourselves. He will never burden us with a trial more than we can bear so it’s patience that has shown me that I am capable of much more than what I thought was possible to handle.