During these past 3 days now, I’ve been anxious, stressed, exhausted, but happy at the same time (will explain this shortly ūüėČ ). On Monday of this week I went to pick up my seven year old daughter from the airport who will be spending the summer with us. My son also seven was supposed to arrive with her, but¬† had to attend summer school and will come at the end of the month. I have a total of four beautiful children from ages¬†two through seven years of age (A little something you may not have known).¬†¬†

My two older munchkins don’t live with me, but live with their dad in New York. He and I have joint custody Alhamdulilah won’t get into the details of this long battle, nevertheless, I know this is what Allah has decreed for me and although their are times that are harder than others, I have learned to be patient and rely on the wisdom of Allah (swt) during this trial that I’ve been facing since accepting Islam. Anyway, I don’t want a pity party so let me get back on track….

My three girls are together now, and I have to tell you I have no idea how mom’s of six, seven, eight, and beyond do it. I have only three at the moment and¬†one more¬†coming shortly, and hope I will make it alive by the end of this summer hehehhe…… and with some hair still on my head LOL… The first two days were a challenge not with my seven year old, but my three year old. She’s having a hard time adjusting to this and I can see some jealousy in her eyes and she went from acting like a princess to pretty much falling into the terrible two’s again. I haven’t really sat for 15 minutes in the day to do anything because I’ve had to play referee mom and break-up the tackles. I guess I’ve just been slightly overwhelmed in how to organize all of this. I am improving¬†and starting to get better at it. It’s been four days now and starting to pick up a routine with all of them, and they are starting to come around and getting along.

It wasn’t¬†until last night that I felt burnt out and its only been four days. My back ached,¬†had a¬†pounding headache, and seeing double from the exhaustion. I’m the type of person who usually tries to gain a perspective ot things by reading parenting books. I read about it all, if it wasn’t for those parenting magazines and books I think I would have flipped out by now. I guess I should re-subscribe to Parenting since it ended this past May, couldn’t hurt right, but there are just those incidents that a book just can’t explain.

All the moms out there know what I mean hehee… like that scenario when your daughter’s hair has bubble gum in it and tries to take care of it herself and runs to you only when she knows she can’t remedy it, and you discover that what might of been a small marble of gum in hair has now turned into the size of¬†a gulf ball, and the only way to make it better is pretty much only to take the sheers and snipping her gorgeous locks (happened to me at 8). Or that case when they get a marble up their nose thinking they’re funny and have to figure out how to get it lodged out LOL…..definitely not in the books.

For all those moms who have four kids or more do any of you have¬†advice on surviving motherhood and retaining the sanity left¬†LOL… ? I would really appreciate your comments and advices for taming three girls ages 2, 3, and 7 and the only boy who will soon be 8.

¬†While reflecting on these few days in my world of motherhood, I realized something last night. They are now beginning to get along and help each other. Kids will be kids and blood is thicker than water. Although they may not live together 365 days of the year, they know they are siblings and they’re kids you can’t expect them to be good all the time someone is bound to fall, and push the other and the endless fights of “that’s mine!!!” OH YEA, lets not forget how wasted your name “MOMMY” is hehehhe…..

Also I have another question for moms and those who are soon-to-be mommies. How do you find time to relax and¬†have that blessed¬†breather moment?¬†How do you unwind at the end of the day?¬†I know one of them is¬†having a strict bedtime. At least, I got that accomplished hehehe….¬†CONFETTI anyone? That’s what I saw when they all went to bed ;).

   

                                        

This week has definitely had its challenges. Most of which I’m still learning and trying to figure out.¬† A life journey.¬†I thought I had it all worked out and knew how to handle every situation that I read about; however, reading something is completely different from experiencing it. Like that “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” book. Just isn’t the same when you¬†read about birthing and then pushing that baby out. The shoes have to be worn to know how they feel instead of just glancing¬†at them from the display window.

 This reminds me. I now have a deeper understanding behind the hadith of the Prophet (pbuh) where a man came to him and asked this question. 

¬†Narrated Abu Huraira: A man came to Allah’s Apostle and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best¬†companionship by me?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man said. “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man further said, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man asked for the fourth time, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your father. ” ¬†(Al-Bukhari)

The role of Motherhood is a large responsibility and the its journey is priceless. We hold in our hearts bittersweet moments that only a mother can understand and cherish. We remember details that many seem to have forgotten and see as insignificant, but within us they are still vivid and fresh.

There is a well known Arab proverb which¬†says “Paradise is under the feet of the mother”.¬†¬†This beautiful saying¬†exemplifies¬†the reverence and status of motherhood. This is a¬†journey¬†that¬†can’t be compensated materialistically.¬†It symbolizes the veneration¬†that is owed to mothers and the honor she possesses.

Being a mother has revealed something to me.  Just when you think that all your strength has been used up you find that extra energy to make it through. Our love is unconditional we never lose hope in our children, and we encourage our children to pursue their dreams even if it goes against our dreams for them. As long as they are happy and live clean lives we feel contentment in our hearts. We have been given a beautiful gift, one that sadly some never experience in their lives. This has proven to me how grateful I should be. Subhanallah an enlightening moment. 

Here is a quote that really¬†touches the¬†roots of a mother’s love.¬†Inshallah I hope you will find it dear just as I have. “A father may turn his back on his child, brothers and sisters may become inveterate enemies, husbands may desert their wives, wives their husbands.¬† But a mother’s love endures through all”.¬† ~Washington Irving

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